Regrettable mistakes can be avoided
in marriage, it perplexes me to see a husband and wife fighting outside they
don’t need it, it is wrong for a husband and wife to exchange awful words to each
other outside. I guess there are factors which influences such attitude because
I believe that a man and a woman who knows how far their attitudes will go
in influencing
the onlooker will definitely avoids it.
As a man before you married your
wife, I guess both of you spent some time together, that period is known as,
courting, the period when a man and a woman set to study each other in other to
know if they are compatible, if they are not compatible, it is easy to say
please let’s go our separate ways because I have come to realize that our
marriage will not be a blissful one if we should marry, it is not a must that you
must marry the first person you date, it is better you let go of courtship than
a divorce.
There is something that annoys me
more, some persons act in the manner that they don't know the young lady or young man before they got married, as a young man,you should know who your spouse is, now that you are
married, you complain about her, didn’t you know that she is like that?, some
persons will say the lady pretended all through the period of their courtship,
who is fooling who? We all know that marriage is a school where you can
never graduate, the day you graduate you die, nobody is responsible for any
kind of person you chose as a life partner irrespective of who asked you to
give him or her a chance because you are responsible for every of your actions.
There is no wrong person in
marriage, your complains eventually makes you the wrong person, we are all
imperfect, thinking that your life partner is a wrong choice mean that you
didn’t know what you need in a woman or man because you were the person that
talked this woman into the relationship, why is she the wrong person now, is it
a crime to accept a proposal? The answer is no, there is something we must
know, we are in the life of that imperfect person to make him or her perfect.
Your excuses is nothing to me
because what I expect from you is to correct his or her wrong with love, some run
away from the house because of their wives, some abandon their children, men
who are men stand to solve their problems and not run away from it. Do you
think that the next person you are running to is the best? Go and come back to
tell the story, you have every right to correct each other because you are one
and not two.
Some men are very temperamental
such men expect their wives to keep quiet whenever they talk, and do you know
the funny aspect of this drama?, same men gets angry when their spouse ignore
them whenever they talks, then he see or feel that the woman is calling him a
fool because there is a saying, silent is the answer given to a fool, as a man
you don’t have to exchange words with a woman because you know that they are
weaker vessel’s that is why they talk when they are not expected to talk, cry when they are not expected to cry, smile when they are not expected to smile.
SHORTCOMING
- Incessant quarrel lead to fight
- Fight lead to different things
- There will be no love in the home
- The man may engage in a fight with her and mistakenly take her life
- There is bound to be no peace in the home
- Disrespect and discredit come into play.
SOLUTION
- Don’t take every insult from a woman into account
- Don’t exchange words with her, only women do that
- If your anger arose, pick your shirt and go to a friend’s house to cool off, before you comes back, she will be calm
- Don’t lay your hand on her; real men do not beat up their wives
- Understand her; know her weak point, so that you can turn things around for your good
- Love her and never give her a room to doubt your love
- Respect her as a woman
- Take her as you younger sister, mother and a best friend
- You should know that a woman is an emotion being
- Encourage her whenever she is discouraged
- You are both strength to each other
- Love each other and forget his or her flaw that is what makes love stronger
- If at all you quarrel, nobody should know about it but just both of you
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