Marriage s a pleasant and an
interesting experience which every man and woman should take part. In every Nation
there is a State and in every State there is a City. In every City there is a Village
and in every village there is a Family these makes the world a happy and
beautiful place to live in, but who can believe that the small settings is in a
way becoming a problem to the commoners, (Tribe), tribes are different languages
that makes up a settlement.
We all believe that every tribe is
unique and is of importance in the functioning and smooth run of any Nation,
but I have come to understand that some tribes in some Countries is the problem
that the young men and women encounter when it comes to marriage, some are very
annoying that some young ladies are still in their parents’ house as spinsters because
of tribal issue in marriage.
Even when men ask for their hand in
marriage, tribe issues comes to play, as some parents wish their children to
marry from their surrounding either because of fear or sentiment, they see
other tribes to be bad, judge other tribes base on what they have heard of the
tribes while the young men from their tribe might not want to marry from there
because of what and how the young ladies behaves there.
It is very embarrassing that when a
young lady brings a suitor to her parents, her parents demand of the man’s
tribe to know if he is of the same tribe with them but if he is not, she is
told to forget about him as nothing will work out for both of them, marriage
should not be tribalism oriented because no tribe is the best, we are all human
beings, imperfect in nature, so, we should not be judgmental?.
A lot of young ladies are still
hoping for the best because of this catalyst, nobody is a saint, we are all
trying to try so why condemn other tribes, why make it sound like other tribes
are devilish, do you think you are righteous yourself, if you don’t know, no
matter how righteous you are, the minute you see somebody bad from afar that
day or time you becomes bad.
Like some men or women from the Urhobo
tribe will say, he will never live to see his daughter or son get married to an
Isoko person, Isoko and Urhobo shares common boundary, from same region, is it
not preposterous an act? What becomes of them if their sons or daughters happen
to love somebody from that tribe, the man will want to stop them, thereby depriving
the children from exercising their free will choice to love or marry. The man
may feel that he is doing the right thing by coming between his son and the
person he love.
A tribe is not a personality, there
is what they call individual differences, no tribe is the best, though everyone
sees their tribe as the best but the fact remains that in the midst of twelve,
there must be Judas. This is to say, no matter how good a particular tribe may seem,
there must be persons who will drag the name of that tribe into the mud. It is a
choice to love, either from Igbo, Hausa, Yoruba, we are all one, though tongue
differences, but that shouldn’t be an embargo, so long they are not deaf or
dumb, or even if deaf and dumb, so long they can communicate and have
understanding of the message they pass across, they are good to go.
It hurt me that some persons have
been wrongly groomed, therefore see other tribes as evil or nothing but sees
theirs as the best, if your tribe is a heavenly made tribe, what made you feel
that other tribe is not same? We should stop the attitude of judging and
condemning other tribes because we are human beings and we have weakness, children
from one family don’t always have the same character not to take of a tribe.
SHORTING COMING
It deprives persons from marrying
whom they love
It makes persons to see other
tribes the wrong way
It result to lack of self
confidence
It result to hate
SOLUTION
It is a choice to love and there is
nowhere in love history where tribe determines what happens, it is love that should
determine what happens, young men and ladies, it hurt me to see or hear that
some young men walked out on the person they claimed they love because of a
mare tribe factor, that is an error because love know no tribe, what love knows
is care, understanding, tolerance, patient, sincerity, humility and simplicity,
these and more makes marriage work and not tribe.
If you love your spouse, take the
bull by the horn and do the needful and not what your family wants, life is a
choice and you are responsible for every of your action knowingly or
unknowingly. It doesn’t matter whether you are forced to do something, the yes or
no comes from you, the will and won’t equally comes from you, marry the person
you love and not the person your family wants because of language barrier, I know
he or she understands English language, if no you can teach her, click here for
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