I wish to welcome you to the
house as we are about to discuss an important issue because it is very funny to
see a happy family soon turn unhappy family, a family that enjoys marriage soon
endures marriage, and sometimes you see or hear couples attributing fault to
each other while as a matter of fact, the problem is either or rather from
nobody but self-desire that could no longer be met due to a present situation when such thing happens what is expected of the couples, should they divorced
or stay to endure the marriage, the answers to these questions are at our doorpost but before we answer these questions, we like to advise you to read our
previous post here
so that you can get a better drive and understanding of what we are about to
discuss here today but if you have read and understood then let’s pull the take-off button so that we can make proper and judicious use of our time here.
Some women complain of their
husbands going outside for another woman, violating the marital vow an uncongenial
act, sometimes I attribute the blames to the men only but now I have come to realize
that the women have shared in the blame, there must be reasons why men go
outside, a man who is responsible will not wake up one day and say he is tired
of the woman at home, so, therefore, he needs another.
Some of the reasons why men
violate their marital vow are what we have decided to discuss today because it
is shameful and annoying to see couples disgracing themselves outside in the guise
of protecting their marriage, marriage is not an institution that instigates quarrel
or fight, it is an institution of Concordia in all families, this all families should
strive for.
WOMEN FAULT IN MARRIAGES
Women should be pampered and
respected these most men know and they are obliged to that but I have come to
realize that most women have also taken advantage of that, respect is not
foolishness, any man that shows respect to any woman simply means that he knows
his place and not the other way round if a man loves you and care for you as a
woman why not do the same instead of making the man look stupid?.
WHY DO MEN LOOK OUTSIDE FOR ANOTHER WOMAN OR MARRY ANOTHER WIFE.
CLEANLINESS
Some women before they married,
nobody maintains like them, they were the lady gaga of Nigeria but the moment
they say I do all their cleanliness, to your tent oh Israel, some keep up with
the cleanliness for some month after first of second kid my God, the home will
gradually become a house where the man will find it difficult to invite his
friends too, to be sincere it is not funny that a man’s friend will tell him, John let’s go to your place instead of discussing this kind of issue in your office, john in return replies his friend don’t worry
let’s just discuss here it is nothing.
His friend will certainly read meaning into his reply, tell you what, John will never be happy for the remaining hours
of that day because he knows that his friend will not find it funny, imagine it
your way, this is John whom a friend will not finish the word your house before he will
say ok let’s go at least we will be relaxed there but since John got married his
office is now his comfort zone, friends will be forced to ask him questions one
day.
VIOLATION OF HUSBAND’S RULES
Some women were saint before they
got married but after saying I do, their real nature comes out, disregarding
nature, if a man says this they say the other when their husband ask them to
wash their clothes before they come back from work, their husbands come back to
meet the cloths unwashed under the umbrella of her child(ren) disturbing, a
person that does not want to do something always put up excuses.
And when the friends visit, they
meet the man washing his clothes under the umbrella of him assisting his wife to
ease the workload, I tell you his friends will be forced to ask him questions
when the assistance becomes too persistent, he that wears a shoe knows where
it hurt him when the man finds it not entertaining any more the uncalled for
might happen.
LOOKING FOR A HOUSEMAID
It is wrong for any woman to ask
for help but for a housemaid, I think they have gone too far as a family,
nobody is perfect or is anybody a saint, bringing you do not know from Adams is
bizarre, good, a housemaid is now employed and everything that pertains to the
house is now been controlled by the maid, she cooks the food, wash the
plates, the cloths clean the husband’s room and even serves the family meals.
A man is a man, the man might not
complain but the day a friend will come to the house to compliment the maid’s
meal, be careful from that day onward.
DEPRIVING A MAN OF HIS RIGHT AS HUSBAND
Some women before they married, they
submit to their husband’s supreme but now that they are married, every man
to himself, a man is not a perfect type because there is a lot outside that
fight to have the best of it, you are not married to him as a married but for a
reason and you must deprive the man of that, he paid your bride price and did
all that was need of him.
HOW TO WIN BACK YOUR HOME
- Go back to your past how you keep yourself and your house clean because your first priority as a woman is how to make a house a home, put things in place arrange things so that they will be in order, and not disorganize the house with the excuse of the children being a burden.
- If a maid is employed, don’t give the maid the full right over your home, you are the wife and the woman of that house, you are supposed to cook for your husband, serve your husband food, if at all the maid‘s cook the food because you were busy, you should be the person to serve the food because it is your duty as a wife except you want a second wife or another woman in your place.
- know what pleases and displeases your husband both of you courted before marrying, keep to his rules, you must be submissive to your husband, your humility to your husband is one of the ingredients that will spice up your marriage, let the man know that he is the head, let him know that he is the general overseer while you are the assistant by your attitude.
- You should be obliged to your husband’s demand sexually, he is your husband, if you don’t let him in then who will, if maybe you are spacing, it should be an agreement between both of you and besides, if you are spacing, there are a lot of child spacing materials you can use, medical material such as pills or injections with that you don’t need to deprive the man of sex because such thing may make him cheat on you.
- Love your husband and give him whatever you expect of him because you can only get what you give, don’t expect what you don’t have to give because marriage works if both couples contribute their quota mind you, marriage can only work if both couples want it to work.
- Be the true and reliable friend of your husband, be the person that he can trust with his issues, the person that can convert his ideas to money or any other profitable thing.
MEN FAULT IN MARRIAGES
Some men after
marriage, they still see themselves as bachelor thereby keeping late night,
after work, they jump into their car with the company of their friends and
zoomed to a nearby bar to satisfy themselves of alcoholic pleasure while their
wives sit at home bothered, your wife is not a slave to you being joined together should not be a privilege to treat her that way.
A woman is a
human with feelings just like you, in marriage one plus one is one, if you are
keeping late-night outing then your wife should be with you since you feel it
is safe to stay out late if you are going out in the company of your friends let your
wife be there because she is part of you, don’t give her reasons to doubt your
decency.
SOME MEN EASILY FORGET THEIR COURTSHIP
EXPERIENCE
Some men are
very good when it comes to courtship, at that period they are the best man any
wife could ever think of but after the I do, that experience gradually fades
away, why most people may ask, some men feels that the ginger and swagger time
is over since she is now a wife, her being a wife does not change the fact that
she is a woman and should be treated as such.
SOME MEN AFTER MARRIAGE THROW THEIR RESPECT
FOR WOMEN INTO A RECYCLE BIN
Some men
priority during courtship is their date but after marriage, something else takes
the place of their date who is now their wife, what is the difference between
then and now, some persons will say that there is no need of painting the
black-white because she is now a wife so what is the need of taking her out,
that is an error because your best friend and date is your wife.
The person you are supposed to shower goodies on is your wife before and after marriage,
taking your wife is one of the experiences that renews and rekindle your love for
each other, let her know that she is still the person that makes your heart
beat faster, don’t give her reasons to doubt your love for her.
SOME MEN REPLACE LOVE WITH HATE
Though the
women might be the reason behind such action that does not mean that the
man should forget the good times they spent together as dates before you
married that woman you know her weakness, there is nobody without weakness, her
weakness should not make you turn her body into a talking drum.
You know you
can handle her that was why you married her, so her attitude you should correct
and not the other way round as you know, two wrong does not make one right, you
cannot correct wrong with wrong, some men deprive their wives sex it is not proper
HOW TO WIN BACK YOUR HAPPINESS
- Traceback the love you showed her before both of you got married, don’t think that it is old school because she is never an old school, she should be new to you each day that passes by, her love should always bring in new experiences and smile every day, that you can actualize by giving her what you want from her.
- Give your wife attention so that she doesn’t look for someone else to discuss her issues with because a woman is an emotional being they always look out to somebody to discuss what is bothering them inside and if you as a husband have no time for her then a stranger might the available option for her, such will be of no good to your marriage.
- Love your wife and give your wife whatever you expect of her because you can only get what you give, don’t expect what you don’t have to give because marriage works if both couples contribute their quota and mind you, marriage can only work if both couples want it to work.
- Be the true and reliable friend of your wife, be the person that she can trust with her issues, the person that can convert her ideas to money or any other profitable.
There will be these shortcomings in marriages when these outlines are not adhered to.
- Divorce
- Husband cheating on his wife
- Wife cheating on her husband
- Unhappiness in marriages
- Husbands keeping late-night outing
- Wives keeping wrong company
- Husbands keeping wrong company
- Face off in marriages
- Misleading children.
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