What is marriage? Marriage in my own definition is the union between two matured mind that have decided to live together till death do them apart, the reason for this question is that most people have missed this term marriage therefore thinking that marriage is same as family not knowing that family is different from marriage, I am surprise most times when couples allow families to come between them, how they allow families to decides for them what to do at some point of their lives which give way to this question was it your family that chose the man or woman for you if no why then do you run to your family when you have little issues?
There are issues you should resolve as couples why there are issues you involve your family, you can only involve your family in an issue that you have tried several ways to resolve but prove abortive and not just any issue, the more you take your family issue to your family the more you weaken the strength of the love that exist in your marriage because that is where the enemy of your union will discover the loophole to penetrate and such lead to the failure of many marriages before any marriage can fail there must be side talk from family members or friends.
Your family and your marriage should be parallel lines that never comes together in the case of resolving issues but in the case of living well they should be one but bringing what is happening at your home to either family’s table is not an option at all, as a man you are to protect the interest of your wife and make her feel at home every time and as a woman you are to keep the weakness of your husband secret nobody should know about it the moment you let people around to know your husband’s weakness then you have sold out your husband and the needed respect will no longer be there.
When you visit your family what are the things you discuss with your siblings, do you make your husband the subject and object of discussion or you keep your husband out of your discussions, the care your husband gives to you should be private, the challenge your husband give to you should be private as well except if there is a life threatening issue that is on ground before you left for your family house that is when you can call the oldest person in your family so that the man can be invited for a round table discussion to know the reason behind his attitude and not discussing it with your younger ones or immediate elder ones?
When you are with your friends do you dance to their tune of discussion because some bring someone else story into the table of discussion assuming it to be theirs and if you are not wise and careful you will end up telling them your secret because you believe that they have told you theirs so it will not be wise for you to keep yours that is foolishness, someone telling you his or her secret is not a ticket for you to tell them yours it is private and sacred that is why it is called secret, you own them nothing.
Conclusion: be a good wife or husband resolve your differences without third party interference, woman submit to your husband and husband love your wife, you are both king and queen, kings and queens don’t talk to please people respect your union.
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