Welcome to the house where we are
about to discuss an important issue that just came calling, we wanted to wave
it out but considering it detriment and the damages that this particular issue
has caused, we have no choice but to discuss it, I wouldn’t know if you are new
here, if you are new or have missed any of our previous discussion, we will advise
you to read it here
because our discussion is interwoven, if you have read and understood it then let continue, it is
time to pull the take off button of our marriage flight that guarantees free
and fair understanding in marriage, happy ever after if all the discussion on
this marriage flight is adhere to, as you know, marriage is the only
institution that you receive certificate without graduation, let take off.
We all have past either good or
bad the question here is, is it wise for your would-be husband or wife to know
about it irrespective of it nature, should we live it our secret not minding
that it may escalate when we are about to open the pot of honey for family
merriment, when best should we tell our spouse about our past, if you are in a
relationship do you have to ask your spouse to tell you their past, can he or
she handles the hard truth, what is expected of us when the cat is let of the
bag, these are the questions that we will be answering today, please and
please, don’t just read and go drop your comment because your comment will go a
long way in solving someone else marital problem.
WHEN BEST SHOULD WE TELL OUR
SPOUSE ABOUT OUR PAST
There are people who ask, they
are always inquisitive wanting to know the past life of their date, to be
candid with you, it is not in any way wrong because there is saying thus: early
stitches saves hundreds, what you know will never be a surprise or harm you
because you will know the antidote, when you are going out with somebody, what
you need to do, this very important, know the nature of person he or she is,
are they introvert or extrovert, know their weak point, how do they approach
matters, what is their strength and ability, if you are able to know these
things then you have to apply the right technique the pattern that will favor,
the mood you know you can discuss it with him or her.
Be ready for any reaction,
positive or negative be prepared to handle the issue because it will be better
that you do it when you have the chance to than the time when you will be
pleading for audience, if you tell him or her and they are like, you are the
most horrible night mare that I have ever had, let them know that nobody is a
saint make the person understand that you was a shadow of yourself then, it was
a circumstance that made all that happened back then happened, let them know
that you appreciate and value them that is why you have to share what matters
most in your life with them, if notice that the reaction is become something
that will lead to fight, give them a break to cool off because of a truth it is
not easy to accept.
At the process of doing this, don’t
see yourself to be the worse person that have ever lived, it is your past, it
was your life and there is nothing wrong sharing your past memory with the
person you love, if the person love you in return he or she will understand
that you are telling them because you truly love and care about them, you are telling
them in other not to hurt them should in case they hear it from somebody else,
it is important for a FIRST AID BOX before injury, you letting your spouse know
your past and even your present is the best thing in any relationship, the best
time to tell your spouse is the time that you know he can handle such issues
without much reaction, it might be inside the house, an outing, a calm and
lovely environment, praise the person and make them promise not to overact, go
like honey, sweetie you are the most amazing thing that has ever happened to
me, you are the one that makes my world go round, honey, shower words that will
make he or she look like a king or a queen then go like honey please there is
an important area of me that I want to discuss with you promise me that you
will understand and love me the way you have always do, make them promise, note:
do it on time because it is dangerous for he or she to know outside because the
outsider will exaggerate but if you have shared it with them before then the
exaggeration of the outsider will be baseless.
CAN HE OR SHE HANDLES THE HARD
TRUTH
Some person prefer to let the
sleeping dog lye, do you think that same sleeping dog will not wake up some
day, the truth is the only thing that makes anything stand, if you are rich and
not honest, your riches will assumed a glittering plastic that can never be
liken to a diamond, you have to tell them the hard truth, if you love your
spouse, you will not hid anything from he or she, sometime I wonder, why is it
that people find it difficult to relate their bad part but always camouflage the
good part.
I guess we don’t know what life
is, life comprises the bad and the good, nothing how good anything might be he
or she must possess a bad part, if you accept the person because of his or her
good then I don’t see why you cannot also accept the person with his bad part,
nobody is a saint, so don’t hid your bad past in continue living pain and ocean
of guilt growing thin while your spouse adds weight every day, there is nothing
as frustrating as keeping secret because your heart will not be at peace
whenever you sees an old friend close to your spouse, be honest and free
yourself from the anguish.
You should know the ability of
your spouse if he or she can handle the truth or not, but the fact is that you
should tell them because they are part of you so long you both share a bond,
keeping a secret is like killing somebody because there is a secret that can
actually kill be bold enough to let it out, honesty keeps relationship but lies
destroys it, at first the lie might be favorable to you but the day the hard
truth will elopes, you will surely go down.
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